Running for Mayor of nothing

Good morning gorgeous. Welcome to your Wednesday! You're looking fresh today, and I know you have something brilliant cooking in that big ol' brain of yours. Pull up a chair, and get yourself some caffeine, it's time for our weekly chat. I want to chat a little bit about being "likeable".

I used to want to be everyone’s cup of tea.

I wanted to be infinitely likeable, and I would stress about meeting new people, and whether or not they liked me.

My brand of tea is spicy, feminist, opinionated. This is “too much” for a lot of people, but I always wanted to be just enough. I’d temper myself, quiet my opinions, smile demurely. I’d take my spicy hot tea and bring it down to room temperature in an effort to be likeable to everyone. I was sure if they all didn’t like me I’d crumble to ash.

As John Mulaney says, I was running for the Mayor of nothing. It was exhausting.

I had to learn a hard truth, not everyone will like you. Some people will judge you and talk about you. That sounds scary, but it’s actually not. It’s just the reality of human nature.

Like Elizabeth Gilbert says “What someone else thinks of you is none of your business.” Those are their private thoughts and judgements. Leave them alone, they aren’t our concern.

You are not for everyone, and that’s a really good thing. Have you ever tried to buy one-size-fits-all clothes? They don’t fit anyone Brandy Melville, and they’re ugly. When you try to bend yourself to be likeable to every kind of human, you fail all of them. We become unrecognizable to ourselves, and the people we love. We become the vanilla ice cream version of our personality, and no one orders that shit.

You do you, my friend, and don’t care if they like it— because they’re not all going to. Good.